Pain ~ Joy (my version)

From the beginning we women are so connected with something called pain.
Genesis chapter 3 give us the ‘clue’ what God said to woman:
“I will make your pains in childbearing very severe;
with painful labor you will give birth to children.
Your desire will be for your husband,
and he will rule over you.”

Along the way we become so cranky when we deal with the pain.
Every month woman use the hormonal thing called Pre Menstrual Syndrome (PMS).
“Don’t you dare come near me, I am having my PMS!”
“Why don’t you shut up and do what I told you. Don’t let my hormone shoot you!
“I don’t understand why you are so stupid. I don’t patience for waiting for your brain back to your head.”
You name it… I can understand every words of it. I did this too many years ago.I use my natural cycle in my body to be the ‘right’ and ‘can be understood’ as a reason so I can scold everyone and (never ending) wish that I can be understood because I have PMS!
“Do you know how to speak nice. I am woman.”
“I can show the world my feeling, I can do whatever I want, it’s my FB (or Profile status, or twitter, or whatever) anyway.”

Just like physical pain, emotional pain is a biofeedback system. It informs us about what we are thinking and doing – and about the quality of those thoughts and actions. If we experience sadness for instance, our sadness acts as a messenger telling us: “Hey! Right now you are thinking or doing something that is not serving you so you might want to change it!”
If you are dumped, you might be thinking: “I am not worthy of love.” Or you might punish yourself by shutting out the world. It is your thoughts and actions that trigger your sadness, not what happens to you. Imagine instead if you chose to think: “Well, time to make a new connection with me and God first”

So many time we hide behind something that the world see as a negative thing.
We feel that we so unlucky created as a woman because we have the physical pain every month and (more) sensitive to emotional pain. We can shout to the world: “I can not choose what I feel!”
But let see the pain as a strong way to show our strength as a woman.

If we don’t feel pain – your nerve is not functioning well.
If you don’t feel pain – you can not protect yourself.
If you don’t feel pain – you miss what a truly womanhood means.


Yes God said that we women will deal with pain. So much pain. But the beautiful thing is God know we can handle it with Him.
He show from time to time His faithfulness to women. Jesus came from a womb of a woman. He’s the one who crush the head of the serpent.
Our womb is the strength of our womanhood. That comes along with our ability to handle pain.
Yes we have the huge strength that we can not imagine.
A strong woman become strong not because her power to rule the world, but because her ability to trust in God and together with God she face all the pain ahead her and win!
“I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born. If I cause you ·the pain, ·I will not stop you from giving birth to your new nation.” says your God in Isaiah 66:9.

So gals, if you can feel pain, be grateful. Be joyful. Be full hope, and wait for what God will show you.
Let’s wait for the best thing that will come to change your pain into the joyful sound.


About whittulipe

Lia adalah seorang Dokter dan saat ini Ia bekerja di sebuah perusahaan teknologi medis. Passionnya adalah mewartakan harapan yang terpancar melalui anugrah kehidupan melalui tulisan, ilmu kedokteran serta penghayatan hidup sebagai seorang perempuan. Ia adalah kontributor Buku Renungan Harian Wanita “Treasuring Womanhood” selama 8 tahun belakangan ini, juga penulis buku “You Deserve The Truth”, “Sexy and Holy”, “Wake up Princess”. Lia sangat passionate melayani kaum muda. Bersama suaminya Riko Ariefano dan komunitasnya Domus Cordis, ia banyak melayani di berbagai negara dan daerah di Indonesia, khususnya dalam mewartakan kabar sukacita tentang teologi tubuh (TOBIT), anugrah kehidupan, dan panggilan keperempuan-an. Lewat Inspire Group, sebuah kerasulan media sosial dalam Komunitas Domus Cordis, Lia dan Riko juga sering membawakan vlog dan menjawab pertanyaan-pertanyaan seputar kaum muda dengan berbagai perjuangan dan pergumulannya, serta bagaimana untuk selalu melibatkan Kristus dalam kehidupan mereka. Topik-topik yang dibawa termasuk tentang relationship, adiksi, potensi kaum muda, hubungan dengan orang tua, sampai current issues di Indonesia. She is a proud wife and blessed daughter. She is a writer and traveller who loves coffee, bakmi, and dogs! Lia bersama suaminya Riko Ariefano, dan kedua ekor anjingnya saat ini berdomisili di Jakarta. Blog: IG: whittulipe Vlog: Youtube: Inspire Group
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